I like how – at least to me – it seems as though Ricky Martin has the equation in its correct order. He clearly found a way to give love first – to his children. From a place of love he seems to be living out the rest of his life as a loving father who happens to be gay. At least that is my reading. It is a good place to be – where guilt and other fears take a second place to being a loving person first and above all else.
The gay culture places such a large emphasis on coming out. But maybe there is something to be said about learning to love first and making coming out and other things secondary.
Came across this interview youtube clip of a Ricky Martin interview: