The last few weeks have yielded precious lessons about faith and how to reconcile my Christian beliefs to my sexuality. Many of them are well known but it was great being reminded of these lessons about life, love, spirituality.
These are some of the things that I learned that I hope to carry into real life. This is the last post of the blog for Lent 2012. This was meant to be just for these past weeks, and I am glad to have done it. OI hope to do the same later this year during advent. I pray that all of these lessons will become real in my day to day living:
Be awake, stay alive In the joy of Easter, I learnt to always seek the light, to refuse to blindly accept ideas but to critically question. I learnt not to allow myself to slip into unconscious living, but to be fully aware and awake. I learned to make it my aim to go through life awake, aware, enlightened and alive.
Remember that you are always worthyI learned that validation will not always be available from those I love, but that at my core I shoudl always remember that I am deserving to be here and have a right to be myself. I do not need to diminish myself, or other people. I am valuable even when I do not feel that way.
Learn to Love before all else – put that ahead of even ‘coming out’ I learned that loving others, loving myself, is much more important than coming out – or anything else for that matter. I need to fill my thoughts, words, my heart with love, it is my greatest resource.
Love God passionately No matter what, I need to keep the channels open to God, whatever it takes. I should not let him out my sights. I need to fight to keep love for him alive. My love for God is sufficient, I do not need to be anything else than a person who loves God and others. The rest is noise – including pointless theological ramblings.
The Bible is a complex document, never settle for simplistic interpretations of it while some branches of christianity claim to have the bible as the ultimate authority of their lives, this is always a lie. No one takes the Bible as the only and ultimate authority of their lives, no matter how convinced or deluded they sound. We all weigh up scripture to what is relevant, what works in our time. It is actually impossible to live with the Bible as the only and ultimate authority. Not a sinlgle person does that. We all debate with scripture . What we need to do is hold on to the essence – Our love for God and for others.
Be Grateful Be thankful, do not lose sight of your blessings. Do not take life, other people for granted. Be thankful. Write down your blessings, express thanks.
It’s not all about me. I need to take time to empathise with other people’s suffering and empathise with others, live a life that serves others, it is not all about me.
Be still Get rid of the noise, strive to find quiet and calm. Drop into the core of who you are as often as possible. Get rid of noise, minimise distractions, find peace, don’t be afraid of solitude or the quiet.
Get real Do not be afraid of real, painful truths and realities. When they arise, try to let them flow though you. Feel the anger, feel the shame that others may project onto you and sit with it for a while. Don’t escape from pain. Feel it and gradually allow it to leave, do not resist.
Count the cost Be aware of the very real price and costs of being openly gay and find a way to be at peace with them. It is a huge choice being openly gay. If you need to keep it private for a while, do so. Be aware of the huge costs and remember the price.
Coming out is not as important as it seems , rather it is better to learn to love and to give love, no matter how strong the urge to come out feels. Coming out alone does not make things get better. Rather, learn about how to love yourself, love others and how to be loved – these are more important things. Take the journey to love first.
Be determined Do not give up, even in moments of weakness. Keep walking, push ahead.
Let it all out Tell someone, write it through a blog, speak it out to God, pray, speak to yourself. Express yourself. Do not hold frustrations and fears inside, let it all out.
Get used to Grace Learn to receive grace, nobody is perfect. Give it to others too.
Believe in love, have faith No matter how many times you are bruiesed, learn to love again. Believe in love, do not become disillussioned.
Take a chance, say hello Get rid of shyness, take the first step, strike a conversation. Find community, do not be alone. Find company, do not take the road alone. Make friends, find someone to love. Do not be alone.
Forgive, let go As difficult as it may seem, learn to forgive. Forgive God, forgive others, forgive yourself. Let it go and move on. Leave the past behind.
Check your thoughts Learn to control your thoughts, be conscious of your negative thoughts, get rid of them, replace them with positive ones. Feed your mind with thoughts that will empower and make you grow. Read, write, embrace knowledge, read challenging books, fill your mind with ideas that will take you to where you need to be.
These are some of the very basic lessons learned through my Lenten Journey 2012. What a beautiful journey. I feel the change, I am thankful for that.
29. I am worthy